📖 Overview
My Dear Boy: Gay Love Letters through the Centuries presents a collection of romantic correspondence between men from ancient times through the modern era. The letters span multiple continents, cultures, and social classes, providing documentation of same-sex relationships throughout history.
The anthology includes writings from renowned figures like Michelangelo, Walt Whitman, and Oscar Wilde, alongside letters from lesser-known individuals. Each entry contains contextual notes about the writers and their historical circumstances.
Editor Rictor Norton has translated many of the letters from their original languages and organized them chronologically from ancient Rome to the mid-twentieth century. The collection features both reciprocated and unrequited love affairs, ranging from passionate declarations to subtle expressions of affection within the constraints of different time periods.
These intimate exchanges reveal universal themes of desire, tenderness, and the human need for connection, while also documenting how same-sex love has been expressed and preserved despite varying degrees of social acceptance and persecution.
👀 Reviews
Readers appreciate the book's intimate glimpse into private gay relationships across different time periods and cultures. Several reviewers noted the value of having these historical documents collected in one volume.
Positive feedback focuses on:
- Detailed research and historical context for each letter
- Inclusion of both famous figures and ordinary people
- Quality of translations from original languages
Main criticisms:
- Some letters feel overly platonic or ambiguous about romantic intent
- Uneven representation across time periods
- Limited letters from non-Western cultures
Review Sources:
Goodreads: 3.9/5 (47 ratings)
Amazon: 4.1/5 (9 ratings)
Specific Reader Comments:
"Provides concrete evidence against claims that homosexuality is a modern phenomenon" - Goodreads reviewer
"Some inclusions seem like a stretch... not all close male friendships were romantic" - Amazon reviewer
"The academic commentary adds depth but can feel dry" - LibraryThing user
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🤔 Interesting facts
🔹 The book includes letters from numerous historical figures including Walt Whitman, Oscar Wilde, and Allen Ginsberg, revealing intimate details of their romantic relationships that were often hidden from public view.
🔹 Author Rictor Norton is a prominent LGBTQ historian who has dedicated much of his academic career to uncovering and preserving queer history, particularly from the 17th and 18th centuries.
🔹 Many of the letters in the collection had to be carefully translated from their original languages, including ancient Greek, Latin, French, German, and Italian, revealing the universal nature of same-sex love across cultures.
🔹 Several of the featured letters were discovered in police records and court documents, as they were originally seized as evidence during times when same-sex relationships were criminalized.
🔹 The earliest letter in the collection dates back to the 2nd century CE, written by the Greek rhetorician Fronto to his former pupil, the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius.