The Council of Dads

The Council of Dads chronicles author Bruce Feiler's response to receiving a cancer diagnosis while his twin daughters were just three years old. Facing uncertainty about his future, Feiler developed a plan to ensure his daughters would have guidance if he could not be there for them. The book details Feiler's process of selecting and approaching six close friends to serve as father figures for his daughters. Each man represents different aspects of Feiler's personality and life philosophy, from teaching his daughters how to travel to showing them how to live with passion. Through letters and conversations, Feiler shares stories about each council member and explores the unique qualities that led him to choose them. The narrative follows his medical journey while simultaneously examining the bonds of friendship and fatherhood. The Council of Dads is fundamentally about legacy, love, and the ways people can come together to support children through difficult circumstances. It raises questions about what makes a father and how to preserve a parent's values and wisdom for future generations.

Readers describe this memoir as an emotional but hopeful story that resonates with parents. Many found the core concept compelling - a father assembling male friends to help guide his daughters if he died. Readers appreciated: - Raw honesty about facing mortality - Concrete examples of father-daughter relationships - The blend of practical advice and personal narrative - Quality of the writing Common criticisms: - Too much focus on the author's career/achievements - Some found it self-indulgent - Story feels incomplete or unresolved - Wanted more detail about the actual council members Ratings averages: Goodreads: 3.7/5 (2,100+ ratings) Amazon: 4.3/5 (160+ ratings) Notable reader comments: "Beautiful concept but needed more depth about the actual council members" - Goodreads reviewer "Touched me as a father but meandered too much" - Amazon reviewer "The personal stories overshadowed the council idea" - Goodreads reviewer

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🔸 The Council of Dads was adapted into a television drama series by NBC in 2020, though it only ran for one season before cancellation. 🔸 Bruce Feiler has written nine consecutive New York Times bestsellers, including Walking the Bible and Abraham: A Journey to the Heart of Three Faiths. 🔸 The author's specific diagnosis was osteosarcoma, a rare form of bone cancer that primarily affects children and young adults, with only about 800-900 new cases diagnosed in the US annually. 🔸 The six men chosen for the Council represented different aspects of Feiler's life: travel, family, work, friendship, faith, and dreams. 🔸 After seven months of chemotherapy, a seventeen-hour surgery, and years of recovery, Feiler survived his cancer diagnosis and continues to write and speak about family relationships.