📖 Overview
A writing professor in Manhattan grapples with the suicide of her closest friend and mentor, leading her to adopt his elderly Great Dane, Apollo. Despite living in a building that prohibits pets, she takes in the bereaved dog, who is struggling to cope with the loss of his owner.
The narrative flows between past and present as the unnamed narrator reflects on her relationship with her mentor, his complex personal life, and their occasional disagreements about his conduct with students. Her new life with Apollo brings unexpected challenges and transformations as she navigates grief while trying to keep the large dog in her small apartment.
The novel takes an unconventional form, blending elements of memoir, literary criticism, and philosophical meditation. Through this hybrid structure, the story examines the bonds between humans and animals, the nature of grief and friendship, and the role of writing in processing loss.
👀 Reviews
Readers call this a quiet, contemplative book about grief, writing, and the bond between humans and dogs. Many appreciate the philosophical musings and literary references woven throughout, with one reader noting it "reads like an intimate conversation with a brilliant friend."
Readers highlight:
- The raw portrayal of loss and mourning
- Authentic depiction of the human-animal connection
- Writing style that blends fiction with essay elements
Common criticisms:
- Lack of traditional plot structure
- Too many literary/writing discussions
- Meandering pace
Ratings:
Goodreads: 3.8/5 (71,000+ ratings)
Amazon: 4.1/5 (2,100+ ratings)
"The narrative style won't work for everyone," notes one Amazon reviewer. "It's more of a meditation than a story." Multiple readers mention abandoning the book due to its unconventional structure, while others praise this same quality as "refreshingly different." Several reviewers cite the dog-related passages as the strongest elements.
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🤔 Interesting facts
🏆 The Friend won the 2018 National Book Award for Fiction, making it Nunez's first major literary prize after decades of writing
🐕 Great Danes can weigh up to 175 pounds and stand 32 inches tall, making Apollo's presence in a small Manhattan apartment particularly challenging and poignant
📚 The book's unique structure includes literary references and quotes from famous writers like Virginia Woolf and Rainer Maria Rilke, creating a conversation between past and present authors
🏢 The no-pets policy in New York City apartments, central to the story's conflict, affects approximately 75% of NYC rental units
✍️ Prior to writing The Friend, Nunez worked as an editorial assistant for The New York Review of Books and taught at prestigious institutions including Columbia and Princeton Universities