📖 Overview
Samantha Irby's essay collection chronicles her experiences with marriage, aging, health issues, and career changes as she adapts to life in a small Michigan town. Through autobiographical stories and observations, she documents her transition from Chicago city life to a quieter suburban existence.
The essays move between past and present, covering topics from her work on TV shows to managing autoimmune disease to navigating social media. Irby maintains her signature self-deprecating voice while tackling subjects like therapy, stepparenting, and the realities of being a professional writer.
With raw honesty and sharp wit, Irby examines what it means to build an adult life on one's own terms. Her essays illuminate the complexities of modern relationships, career reinvention, and finding peace with an imperfect body and mind.
👀 Reviews
Readers describe this essay collection as raw, honest humor about aging, marriage, and health issues. Many praise Irby's conversational writing style and ability to find comedy in difficult topics. Online reviews highlight her candid takes on anxiety, relationships, and living with chronic illness.
Likes:
- Relatable observations about adulthood and relationships
- Humorous takes on serious topics
- LGBTQ+ representation
- Pop culture references
Dislikes:
- Repetitive themes from previous books
- Too much focus on bodily functions
- Some essays feel unfocused or rambling
- Pop culture references may date quickly
Ratings:
Goodreads: 3.9/5 (42,000+ ratings)
Amazon: 4.4/5 (2,800+ ratings)
Common reader comments note the book works best in small doses rather than reading straight through. Several reviewers mention skipping certain essays but finding others highly memorable. Multiple reviews praise the "30 Rock spec script" essay as a standout.
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🤔 Interesting facts
🎯 Author Samantha Irby started her career as a blogger, writing the popular blog "bitches gotta eat" while working as a veterinary receptionist in Chicago
📚 The book debuted at #1 on the New York Times paperback nonfiction bestseller list in April 2020
🎬 Irby's work has led to multiple TV writing opportunities, including the Hulu series "Shrill" starring Aidy Bryant
✍️ The essays in the book cover topics ranging from turning 40 to moving to a small Michigan town with her wife, often using self-deprecating humor to tackle serious subjects
🏆 The collection received widespread critical acclaim, with The Washington Post calling it "the exact right book for this moment in time" during the early pandemic lockdowns