📖 Overview
Dear Girls is a collection of letters written by comedian Ali Wong to her two daughters, combining personal stories with frank advice about life, relationships, and growing up. The letters cover Wong's experiences as an Asian-American woman, her journey in comedy, and her path to motherhood.
The book maintains Wong's signature comedic style while addressing serious topics like cultural identity, career struggles, and family relationships. Each chapter tackles different aspects of Wong's life, from her wild younger years to her current role as a parent and successful performer.
Ali Wong strips away her public persona to share intimate details about her upbringing in San Francisco, her time spent in Asia, and her hard-won success in the entertainment industry. The book includes an afterword by Wong's husband, Justin Hakuta, offering his perspective as a father to their daughters.
Through these letters, Wong creates a multilayered exploration of identity, ambition, and the complexities of modern motherhood, while breaking down cultural barriers and challenging conventional wisdom about what it means to be a woman today.
👀 Reviews
Readers describe Dear Girls as raw, funny letters from Wong to her daughters, mixing comedy with honest accounts of her life experiences. The content mirrors her stand-up style.
Readers appreciated:
- Personal stories about Wong's upbringing and Asian-American identity
- Behind-the-scenes look at comedy career struggles
- Marriage and relationship insights
- Candid discussion of taboo topics
- Audio version narrated by Wong herself
Common criticisms:
- Too much focus on sex and bodily functions
- Repetitive stories for those familiar with her comedy
- Writing style can feel scattered
- Some found the humor forced
Ratings:
Goodreads: 4.0/5 (52,000+ ratings)
Amazon: 4.6/5 (3,800+ ratings)
Sample reader comment: "Like having a conversation with your unfiltered best friend. Crude but caring advice mixed with real vulnerability." -Goodreads reviewer
Several readers noted the book works better as an audiobook due to Wong's delivery and timing.
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Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling Shares the entertainment industry experiences and cultural observations of an Asian-American woman navigating Hollywood with the same insider perspective as Wong.
We Are Never Meeting in Real Life by Samantha Irby Presents raw, personal essays about relationships, body image, and career paths from a female comic perspective with similar candor to Wong's reflections.
Everything's Trash, But It's Okay by Phoebe Robinson Combines cultural commentary with personal stories about dating, race, and entertainment industry experiences that parallel Wong's journey.
Wow, No Thank You by Samantha Irby Delivers unfiltered observations about aging, marriage, and career transitions that echo Wong's straightforward approach to life's challenges.
Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling Shares the entertainment industry experiences and cultural observations of an Asian-American woman navigating Hollywood with the same insider perspective as Wong.
🤔 Interesting facts
🎭 Wong performed seven shows while seven months pregnant during the filming of her breakthrough Netflix special "Baby Cobra" in 2016.
🎬 Before writing this book, Ali Wong had written episodes for the ABC sitcom "Fresh Off the Boat" and was a series regular on NBC's "Are You There, Chelsea?"
💌 Each chapter in "Dear Girls" begins as a letter addressed to her daughters Mari and Nikki, but the book includes an explicit warning that they shouldn't read it until they're adults.
🍜 A significant portion of the book explores Wong's deep connection to Asian food culture, including detailed accounts of her food adventures across Asia and family cooking traditions.
👰 The book reveals that Wong met her husband, Justin Hakuta, at a mutual friend's wedding reception in 2010, and she was initially attracted to him because he went to Harvard Business School.